When intimate partners seek counselling its often because amidst all their responsibilities they've lost sight of each other as unique human beings. I use a combination of strategies to help you communicate beyond the conflict to respect each other as individuals again.
The Gestalt Prayer by Fritz Perls(1969) states "I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations. And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful. If not, it can't be helped."
Emotion-focused Couples Therapy
Emotion-focused couples therapy (EFCT) aims to help intimate partner's identify 'stuck' cycles of disharmony and/or disengagement. By understanding how each other's needs for connection get scrambled in dysfunctional communication patterns, couples can learn how to communicate these attachment needs safely
again when they access their more vulnerable feelings.
Your relationship will flourish again when you can be a good listener to your partner and a safe haven for your special person/people.
"Intimate relationships are not transactions; they are emotional bonds"
Sue Johnson, founder of EFCT